Inevitably, whenever I tell someone that our family is moving to Poland the first thing they say is, "why?" There isn't really a simple answer to this question. There are lots of reasons. My base answer is, "well, my husband is Polish and he wants to return to his homeland." Easy enough, simple answer, and it's enough reason for most people.
But not for me.
I wanted to know WHY, not because I don't want to go, but because I really want to know what's driving his desire to be there, to move his whole family overseas for an indefinite amount of time? So, I asked him. And this is how it went, more or less.
Me: You know, we don't *have* to move to Poland.
Him: I know we don't *have* to, nobody *has* to do anything. You don't want to move do you, you've changed your mind, right?
Me: No, no, no. That's not what I'm saying. I just mean that all the things you want for the kids to learn about Poland, we can do that here. The language, the history, the culture. We can do all that here and work really hard so they really know it.
Him: Maybe, it's not impossible.
Me: I want to move to Poland, I do, and we are, but we don't *have* to.
Him: No, we don't have to move to Poland but we need to.
Him: I don't want my children to just know the language, memorize the history and understand the traditions. I want them to want to be in Poland. I want them to feel Polish and not just like they have a Polish dad. I want them to think of it as their home. I want them to possibly raise their families there. I can't sit here and just resign myself to letting my Polish identity slowly fade away with the next few generations just so that we don't have to miss our families or be inconvenienced with the move. So, no, we don't have to go, but we need to... plus... there's good beer.